The Greek Orthodox Church believes it has preserved
the historic Christian faith as originally taught by the Apostles,
hence a certain air of antiquity surrounds the language and structure
of all religious ceremonies. Unlike the Roman Catholic Church, who
centres much of its devotion on the Virgin Mary, Greek Orthodox faith
centres around God and the fact that He revealed Himself to the world
through his son, Jesus Christ
The legal requirements to be fulfilled for a Greek Orthodox wedding
ceremony are those that apply to civil
marriages. Most Greek Orthodox Church buildings in England and
Wales are registered to perform wedding ceremonies in the same way
as licenced venues. Usually your minister or a parishioner is authorised
to perform the service, but where he is not, the registrar will attend.
If your church is not registered you will need to have a civil ceremony
at the register office first to conform to the legal requirements.
Religious marriages held in Greece or Cyprus are, however, legally
valid without a civil ceremony.
The Greek Orthodox Church does not forbid divorce, but as with most
religions, it is frowned upon. When one or both of you are divorced
and wish to remarry within the Church, you must obtain an ecclesiastical
divorce in addition to a civil divorce. Application for an ecclesiastical
divorce are made to the Archdiocese of Thyateria and Great Britain,
Thyateria House, 5 Craven Hill London, W2 3EN.
The Greek Orthodox Church will not allow more than a total of three
religious marriages, and this is only permitted in extreme circumstances.
However, civil marriages are not recognised by the Greek Orthodox
Church so even if you have been married many times before at a Register
Office these will not be considered if you choose to marry in Church.
- You must first obtain a civil marriage licence from the register
office.
- You must then obtain an ecclesiastical marriage licence from
the diocese.
- The Sacrament of marriage must be celebrated by an Orthodox
priest according to the liturgical tradition of the Orthodox Church
and in a canonical Orthodox Church.
- Your priest must receive authorisation for your marriage from
his diocesan Bishop.
- If one of you is not a member of the Orthodox Church, then you
must have been baptised in your own denomination in the name of
the Holy Trinity. If neither of you are members of the church
or where one of you is not a Trinitarian Christian, the church
will not solemnise your wedding.
- Your Sponsor (koumbaros/koumbara or best man) must be an Orthodox
Christian in good standing with the Church.
Before you can marry, according to Greek Orthodoxy, you must visit
your Priest for counselling three times. The number three is very
significant throughout all aspects of the entire wedding because it
symbolises the Holy Trinity.
On the Wednesday night before a traditional wedding, their friends
and relatives watch the bride's mother and bridesmaids as they bake
breads and wedding cakes, tossing coins into a sieve as they sift
the flour. Shouts of Kalrizika (good luck) accompany this ritual.
While the bride and groom are having their faces smothered in dough
by their relatives, a young girl hides a wedding ring and coins in
the rest of the dough. Partying continues until daybreak - unless
you have to go to work the next day!
There are two rituals involving bedding: one sees a baby being rolled
onto the marital bed to symbolize fertility and happiness, with more
traditional communities actually making a mattress with sweet smelling
flowers. The second ritual involves the bride and groom having a quilt
thrown over them, which symbolizes fertility and abundance. Some brides
choose to carry a lump of sugar in their gloves on their wedding day
as this symbolizes a sweet life. For more ideas, see our Ethnic
and Cultural Traditions feature.
It is traditional for the groom to present the bride with flowers
at the wedding venue.
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